i just realized that becky and margot commented back a week or so ago, and how exciting is that! i didn't figure anyone would actually read this...here's hoping they come back to see the answers to their questions. and that becky starts her own freaking blog someday!
why not just buy sperm? seriously, i totally get that it would be WAY cheaper. yes. but we are totally enamored of the idea of both being a major part of this person's conception. i realize that one of us (not sure who yet) will not be contributing chromosomes, but they will be giving much uterine time and energy and nutrition, as well as most likely, the boob.
who? not sure yet :) we both want to; we both see that there would be some advatages to having it be mine to get instant u.s. citizenship; but it's such a delicate issue that i'm hoping the doctor will decide for us. she thinks she's already decided to let me get pregnant, but i know how badly she also wants it, so for me, the decision won't be made super easily.
i don't know if we'll do this twice and both get to try pregnancy. that would be the ideal, but we don't have that kind of cash. and i feel bad enough about overpopulation already. thoughts?
2 comments:
I am a lttle perplexed at this decision. The chance of getting pregnant using in vitro is only like 30%. Isn't that a big risk, knowing that you may not be able to afford it again for a while or ever.
Margot
i've actually heard several different numbers than that one, all across the board. how to know which one is most accurate? but no, i hadn't heard a figure as low as yours yet (usually depends on lots of factors, as well). in my personal experience (being a successful donor 3 times) it seems definitely worth a try...and i'm not sure if it's a RISK, because what are we RISKING, exactly? losing money? ok, i'm ok with that. i'm not PSYCHED about it, but it's definitely not something that's going to weigh heavier than our desire to at least try for this.
you know? :)
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